"Take an action each day that alleviates suffering in the world. Bring light into darkness."
-Angeles Arrien

Here is the test to find whether your mission on earth is finished:
If you're alive, it isn't.
--- Richard Bach

I have come to realize more and more that the greatest disease and the greatest suffering is to be unwanted, unloved, uncared for, to be shunned by everybody, to be just nobody [to no one]
--Mother Teresa

We were not separated at your birth.
It was the moment at which we began our journey toward each other
-Nancy McGuire Roche

Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Spa Day

The two little girls love to play Spa day with Mommy and Khai thinks he is just one of the girls. Drives my Husband crazy but what a I supposed to do?

Pride and Joy

My 17 year old son was home at lunch today, before he heads to the local college for classes, and he out of nowhere asks how much the twins adoption cost. I gave him a ballpark figure and he wanted to know if it that was each child. I was putting away paperwork in my office the other day and was getting ready to file a cost breakdown from my agency so I got the breakdown and showed him. He was like a typical 17 year old and went no further. It was an unusual question so I probed him on why he inquired. I thought maybe someone had asked him about our adoption or he was doing a project at school. Like a 17 year old boy he nonchalantly said "You know I have been interested in adopting and I was just wondering". Now years ago he had mentioned an interest in adopting, as a single father, a little boy from Asia that he was going to train to be a Ninja. Was I supposed to take this seriously? All kidding aside, I know he had a serious interest years ago but had not mentioned it in years. I have to tell you when he said it my heart swelled with pride and joy. Nothing my kids could do in this life would bring me more happiness. I hope it is something that stays in his heart and grows and grows. I know he plans on choosing a career that he loves and fulfills him emotionally but will not have large monetary gain. He wants to live a simple life and is not into material possessions. He wants to build a cob house and power his house with solar energy. He has simple dreams but I don't know if adoption is something that will financially be within his grasp; This breaks my heart. I will do whatever is in my power to help him, or any of my other children, fulfill the dream of adopting a child in the future. We did not have much emotional support (None really) and defiantly no financial support (Not that I wanted or expected it), from our families, so I will make sure to support my children in every way possible if they so desire. I will rejoice with them just as I would for a biological child; It makes no difference in my eyes and that will always be known. I hope our adoption does make a difference in many generations to come. I hope it is a catalyst for change and opens some hearts and minds to adoption.

Monday, February 02, 2009

Pulls at my heart strings; How about you?

Watch these videos and you will know why I chose to adopt from Vietnam (and still have such a passion for the children left behind); Why I choose to continue sponsoring children and families in spite of the economic downturn in the US (Annual income $250-300 dollars a year per family in Vietnam; Can you imagine?). Why my heart aches for my childrens birth families and what they must endure on a daily basis. If it pulls at your heart the way it does mine you will understand. When you go to a third world country,to bring your children home, and see such poverty you most likely will never be the same again. You could come home to your cushy lifestyle and try and forget, but I don't see how. What amazed me about Vietnam was our poorest person in the US is much better off then a middle/upper class person in Vietnam. Now if we measure wealth in kindness then the people of Vietnam would be way richer then we are. The people of Vietnam were a pure joy; I really did not expect this. I wasn't sure if there would be animosity left over from the war but this was not the case at all; almost the opposite. We only encountered one negative experience (from a very elderly lady with a machete) in five weeks. I really enjoyed the experience and the people. Such a love of babies and children that I have never seen anywhere. If the flight was not so god awful terrible, I would go back at least once a year. I will be back, just not sure when.