Pregnancy and adoption

So I was in need of a brain MRI (Will get into that later when I know more) but Dr would not okay it because I have not had a period in 5 months. I reassure him I am not pregnant (Have been 6 times, I think I know what it feels like) but he makes me go for blood drawn pregnancy test anyway. When I get to the lab the technician really floored me. She could not understand the writing so shes like "Your sure you are right?". I'm like "What?" Pregnant?""NO, I told my Dr I wasn't but he is making me do this". I was like "I don't think husband would be too happy since we just adopted Twins." Then here she goes with the typical stereotypical thoughts about adoption. She's like "Well then you know you ARE because that's what always happens after you adopt."

YEAH SURE!!! Well THANK YOU technician lady!! Could you make any more assumptions about my life and my adoption?

Why is it that people do not understand that not all people adopt because they can not conceive. Not everyone who adopts is sitting at home praying to get pregnant. Some of us choose to build our family through adoption even though we can conceive "OUR OWN". I don't think any of us (No matter what our reasons) consider it a second choice like most of the general public seems to view adoption. My babies are NOT a second choice, They were my first choice for my 4th and 5th child. I do not secretly wish I had conceived and carried "MY OWN" babies instead. Meliah and Khai were very much planned and wanted.

It was actually very scary. I would have embrace a pregnancy if it had been positive but in now way was I hoping it was. I have said it before and I will again. I am done birthing babies, but not necessarily done having children (Unless of course someone higher then me has a surprise in store for me). As of now, I plan and choose for all my future children (If there is anymore) to join our family through adoption. That is a choice I am making not something I am settling for.

P.S. It was negative!!

P.S.S. Watched Sex and the City movie last night and now know why everybody makes this assumption .

Tragedy In Vietnam

I am saddened to read about the flooding in Northern Vietnam. What a tragedy in my childrens birth country. I am so thankful to have my children home and safe in my arms. I deeply loved the sweet people of Vietnam and it breaks my heart think of those poor people who already have so little suffering through such a tragedy. My heart and prayers go out to them and all the children of Vietnam. Let's pray for no more deaths. Below is an article :



HANOI, Vietnam - Forecasters predicted more rain for northern Vietnam on Tuesday as authorities said the death toll from days of flooding had risen to at least 66.
Eighteen of the deaths were in the capital Hanoi which has been lashed for days by the heaviest rainfall for 20 years, authorities said.
More rain was expected in Hanoi and several northern provinces Tuesday, but weather forecasters said it would be lighter than the downpours that soaked the capital over the weekend.
That would provide welcome relief to residents of Hanoi, where many streets were under three feet (a meter) of water and scores of businesses remained shuttered.
"I have been stuck in my house for the past three days," said Nguyen Manh Hung, a businessman who lives on a street in southern Hanoi where water reached his waist. "It's unbelievable to see people navigating the street in boats and by horse-drawn carriages."
Vietnamese television quoted Hanoi Mayor Nguyen The Thao as saying it would take the city four or five days to pump excess water into the Red River _ longer if heavy rains resume.
More than 20 inches (500 millimeters) of rain have fallen on the city, the heaviest in more than two decades.
Authorities reported six deaths in the northern provinces of Vinh Phuc, Bac Giang and Thai Nguyen on Monday.
The central Nghe An province was worst-hit after 10 more bodies were recovered Monday, bringing the death toll there to 22, said provincial disaster official Nguyen Dinh Thuy.
Rains continued to fall in the province, preventing rescue workers from accessing affected areas, Thuy said.
"Water is everywhere. Many parts of the province are still isolated," said Thuy. "We have to use motorboats to rush food aid to villagers, who have been in hunger for several days."
Floods have inundated more than 100,000 homes across northern and central Vietnam, the national committee for flood and storm control said on its Web site.
More than 590,000 acres (240,000 hectares) of rice and vegetables have been destroyed and about 100 miles (170 kilometers) of rural roads damaged, it said.

Happy Halloween!!!

This is our second halloween together but first year of good old fashioned USA trick or treating. Last year on Halloween was our 1st full day as a family. I remember a lot of adjusting going on. We had our hands full and knew it. I dragged 2 halloween costumes all the way to Vietnam from the states and neither one got worn for even 2 seconds. Meliah and Khai would not let us put them down for 2 seconds much less dress them up in stupid costumes.

This year was great. They both were very grumpy when we first dressed them. Meliah tried to rip her tinkerbell costume off and Khai refused to put on his dinosaur hood. Oh fun!! They both were grumpy the whole time I was trying to take pictures and clinging to us for dear life. I never did get a good picture of them all together. Finally Meliah started to adjust but when I tried to put her in the stroller she was having none of it. I finally dug out the old Moby sling that we have not used in forever. It felt like Vietnam all over again (I carried Meliah for night and day in this sling in Vietnam). Khai still was not in a good mood so Dad said they would catch up. I had to carry Meliah a whole mile around the block in the sling. She snuggled all up and was asleep by the third house. The sleeping tinkerbell was so cute. Khai never did catch up with us but went out with his MomMom. She said he jumped right in the stroller and had a ball. No grumping. It was a good night and the kids eventually had a blast.

Happy 1 year Anniversary!!

Now : Oct 2008Then : October 31st 2007

Well today is that special day. The day that seemed like it would never come and we waited endlessly for. The day I hoped for for over 10 years but never thought would become a reality. The day that we flew half way around the world for. The day I felt such joy and bittersweet sorrow (For the birth families) at the same time. The day a year ago that changed our lives forever.

What more can I say? We have been blessed to have been chosen to parent these 2 wonderful children. A better match could not have been made. I am looking forward to many more years of looking into those dark eyes and knowing that we were meant to be together. This was not fate, It was our destiny. They were born to be our children, As we were meant to be their parents. It is so amazing how this can happen half way around the world and you can be lead to each other. It is more amazing then even the power of birth.

Meliah and Khai: I hope you will always feel secure in this love and know you were very much wanted by MANY.

Happy Forever Family Day Meliah and Khai!!!

Here is my post from last year:

http://wwwjourneytoourdestiny.blogspot.com/2007/11/october-31st.html

And the Montage I made to remember that trip forever:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P3gG_U9cuJY

No,No,No

Well the babies vocabulary is taking off like crazy the past 2 weeks(As you can see from Backpack post). I am just totally amazed. They had a handful of words before this but now it seems like they are repeating so many things we say out of the blue. There is also no guessing "Did they just say ???". It is clear as day.

Now Khai has been shacking his head Yes and No to questions for months. His answer is always accurate compared to Meliah who shakes her head No about everything. Well just today his new word became GUESS WHAT??? NO. His new FAVORITE WORD??? NO. He says No about everything. Watch the movie. I don't think he means it. I hope NOT:(

Backpack

Meliah's big sister was playing with her and trying to put a backpack on her. All of a sudden out of the blue she says "Backpack" clear as day. We made her say it over and over and I ran and got the camera. Now she never watches Dora so I don't know how she would know this word (But her big sister did start Kindergarten).

Our week in review

Adoption By Accident

So funny and true. Who would have known how HARD an adoption could be. Not for the faint of heart. It seemed like it would be sooo easy. I want a child(children) ,they need a family . What else??

Don't we wish it could be this easy!!


Adoption by Accident

--Honey, sit down. I have some news for you.
--What is it?
--Well, I don't know how to say this, so I'll just come out with it. I went out to the mailbox today and ... well, we got an I-171H.
--A what?!? An I-171H? As in, we're going to have another baby?!?
--It looks that way.
--But how? We've been so careful! I put away all the blank I-600A forms. Didn't you hide our homestudy update?
--Of course I did. But don't forget, there was that one night ...
--What night? (Pauses) Oh, that night. But it was only once. We were just messing around. I didn't print clearly. I didn't even use ink! (Pauses again) But it was kind of fun.
--(Giggles) it was, wasn't it? I'll never forget how cute you looked getting your fingerprints.
--So now we've got our I-171H, eh? But that doesn't always mean you'll adopt, does it? I mean, shouldn't you see the agency or something, make sure everything's okay?
--I already did.
--And?
--I'm five documents along.
--Five documents! And they're all notarized, certified and authenticated okay?
--Just great. There was one small scare when the agency couldn't see the notary's middle initial, but it showed up just fine under the magnifying glass.
--Thank God. And you honey? Are you feeling okay?
--I'm feeling fine. As long as I know you're happy about this.
--Happy? I'm thrilled! It's always a shock at first when something like this happens, but of course I'm happy!


Thanks Dawn

Double Trouble

So we are watching the Simpson's tonight and realize the babies are missing. We run around looking for them and this is what we finally find. Her brother was her partner in crime but was just standing by watching. We have no idea how she got up there. What do you think she was thinking? Look how happy.

Picture together

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I have been trying for a year to get a picture of the babies together. They never slow down enough. Besides being in the double stroller this is the first one I have. I love it!!

Like it???

Like the NEW Halloween look? I am still messing with it and trying to get it laid out the way I want. In between parenting 5 kids that is.

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Elmo,Fire Trucks,Sneezes,Kisses and Hugs

Babies are 18 months old now. Look at this video to see how much they have grown. Aren't they the cutest ???

Our weekend

2 of my CRAZY girls

Funky dance

This is Khai's funky little dance. He loves baby enstein DVD- Babies first moves. He does this every time he watches the DVD. http://www.amazon.com/Baby-Einstein-Babys-First-Moves/dp/B000H4JH44/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=dvd&qid=1214952050&sr=8-1

My babies are getting sooo BIG!!

First time eating cereal with milk,bowls and spoons.

What's a lion say?

Referral day

Very special day today,June 7th. This day was kind of like the "BIRTH" of our children. It was the very first time we saw their faces and learned they were going to be ours. This was the day of our referral. Here is a description of that day last year. http://wwwjourneytoourdestiny.blogspot.com/2007/07/june-7th-i-got-call-on-my-cell-phone.html
What a truly wonderful moment. I will never forget the joy I felt. We are so very blessed to have these children in our lives. They are even more wonderful then I could have ever hoped for.They both bring so much JOY to our lives everyday. I could not imagine life without them and barely remember what it was like before they joined our family. I often wonder what we did to deserve such a gift? We are very lucky to have found each other half way around the world. They needed us and we needed them. What a perfect match.

You know you are an adoptive mother

Stole this from another blog because it is so true!!


You know you are an adoptive mother (or you should be!) if:

1. The fact that there are 143 million children without a parent to kiss them goodnight has ever made you lose sleep.
2. You realize DNA has nothing to do with love and family.
3. You can't watch Adoption Stories on TLC without sobbing.
4. The fact that if 7% of Christians adopted 1 child, there would be no orphans in the world is convicting to you.
5. You spend free time surfing blogs about families who have experienced the blessing of adoption.
6. It drives you crazy when people ask you about your adopted child's "real" parents.
7. You have ever been "pregnant" with your adoptive child longer than it takes an elephant to give birth (2 years!)
8. You had no idea how you would afford to adopt but stepped out in faith anyway knowing where God calls you He will provide.
9. You have ever taken a airplane ride half way around the world with a child you just met.
10. You believe God's heart is for adoption.
11. You realize that welcoming a child into your heart and family is one of the most important legacy's you could ever leave on this earth.
12. You shudder when people say your child is so lucky that you adopted them, knowing full well you are the blessed one to have them in your life.
13. You know what the word Dossier means and you can actually pronounce it!
14. You have welcomed a social worker into the most private parts of your life.